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11 Signs he’s already fed up with you (And Nearly DONE With Your Relationship)


If you notice these signs, you’re in deep doodoo.

At one point or another, almost everyone has been in a relationship where they are just over it . It could be a friendship, a family connection, or a romantic connection that has just gone sour, but whatever kind of relationship it is, you know it’s just awful .

In most cases, when we get fed up with a person, we tend to want to walk away. From what I’ve seen, though, most do not. When this happens, people will either wait for the relationship to die naturally or wait until it’s more convenient for them to leave the other party behind.

The funny thing about being fed up with someone is that you often don’t realize how well you hide it. Or, rather, I always found it strange how often people are blindsided when they hear that their partner is done with them .

Are you worried that you’ve ticked them off to the point of no return? These are the signs he’s tired of you and is totally fed up.

1. Any sort of affectionate display or discussion seems to annoy him, repulse him, or anger him.

When someone is really sick of a person, they don’t want to see that person. They don’t want snuggle up to that person and they may even be just on the verge of snapping at that person. This is because they are sick of seeing them or even having to speak to them. If you’ve become an obvious source of annoyance, he’s probably fed up of having you around.

2. He regularly jokes about leaving you, hitting you, or killing you in your sleep.

I’m a firm believer that a person’s jokes tell what is really on their mind. If he’s regularly joking about hitting you or leaving you, then there’s a good chance that he’s really pissed off with you to the point that he’s regularly thinking of hurting you.

3. You feel like you have to tiptoe around him in order to keep the relationship going.

A good way to figure out if he’s fed up with you is to check your gut feeling. If you get the feeling like you need to handle everything with care just to keep him from leaving or exploding, then it’s pretty likely that he’s fed up.

4. He used to complain or try to talk about issues in the relationship, but now, he’s stopped.

Most girls I’ve met see the sudden end to complaining as a good thing, but it’s often a sign that the relationship died. If a guy is trying to talk to you about something that is seriously bothering, he still believes that the relationship can by salvaged.

If he stops trying to discuss it or attempt to make it better, it’s because he’s done trying to make it better and because he’s checked out of the relationship like last night’s hotel stay.

5. His demeanor is best described as icy.

Ever have to deal with someone that you hated ? If so, you already probably knew that it’s really hard not to be cold towards them. If he’s got an icy disposition towards you these days, it could be one of the signs he’s tired of you.

6. He got selfish.

Generally speaking, when a guy is totally done with a relationship, the relationship starts becoming all about him. He will only talk to you when it’s convenient for you, he will probably get super selfish in bed, and you will drop to his last priority. This means that if you’re constantly feeling like you’re putting in all the effort, it’s probably because he’s over it.

7. He now rages at you without warning.

Does he regularly lash out in anger of the littlest of things? This isn’t a good sign. At best, he’s fed up with you and the relationship. At worst, you’re dealing with an abuser . Either way, it’s time to call it quits.

8. If you try to approach him about his behavior, you get stonewalled or he explodes.

A guy who still wants a relationship to exist will talk things out and do what he can to make sure that you two make it through. A guy who is totally fed up with you, on the other hand, will not. The reason why is because he will not see any use in talking to you about it anymore. If you can’t get any answers out of him, it’s a sign that the relationship needs to come to a close .

9. His friends, who once were cordial to you, have started to get really hateful towards you.

This is a very, very bad sign. When this happens, it means that he’s been venting to his friends about you, and what he’s been saying about you isn’t the least bit nice. When this happens, your relations with his friends are permanently wrecked and that means the relationship between the two of you probably won’t be salvageable anytime soon.

10. You’ve noticed that his time with you is shrinking.

It used to be that you were joined at the hip. Nowadays, it’s anything but! You literally have to fight to get him to reply to you via text, and he constantly cancels dates at the last minute. Sound familiar? If so, it’s a sign that he’s over you.

11. He’s asked for “space”

We all know what this means, and I shouldn’t have to tell you. Space never means that he’s a happy camper and it means that you’re most likely going to have permanent time apart.

Sometimes, relationships fall apart.

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By Ricardo Elizalde
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Either you’re Married or not you should read this…


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“When I got home that night as my wife served
dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got
something to tell you. She sat down and ate
quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth.
But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I
want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She
didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead
she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She
threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me,
you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to
each other. She was weeping. I knew she
wanted to find out what had happened to our
marriage. But I could hardly give her a
satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to
Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce
agreement which stated that she could own our
house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces.
The woman who had spent ten years of her life
with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for
her wasted time, resources and energy but I
could not take back what I had said for I loved
Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front
of me, which was what I had expected to see.
To me her cry was actually a kind of release.
The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for
several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer
now.
Thenext day, I came back home very late and
found her writing something at the table. I didn’t
have supper but went straight to sleep and fell
asleep very fast because I was tired after an
eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was
still there at the table writing. I just did not care
so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce
conditions: she didn’t want anything from me,
but needed a month’s notice before the divorce.
She requested that in that one month we both
struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her
reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a
month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him
with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had
something more, she asked me to recall how I
had carried her into out bridal room on our
wedding day. She requested that every day for
the month’s duration I carry her out of our
bedroom to the front door every morning. I
thought she was going crazy. Just to make our
last days together bearable I accepted her odd
request.
I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. .
She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd.
No matter what tricks she applies, she has to
face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since
my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So
when I carried her out on the first day, we both
appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us,
daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words
brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom
to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked
over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed
her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about
the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I
put her down outside the door. She went to wait
for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more
easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the
fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t
looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I
realized she was not young any more. There
were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was
graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her.
For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a
sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman
who had given ten years of her life to me. On
the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense
of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane
about this. It became easier to carry her as the
month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout
made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning.
She tried on quite a few dresses but could not
find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my
dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized
that she had grown so thin, that was the reason
why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain
and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I
reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad,
it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his
father carrying his mother out had become an
essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our
son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I
turned my face away because I was afraid I
might change my mind at this last minute. I then
held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom,
through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her
hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I
held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding
day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On
the last day, when I held her in my arms I could
hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school.
I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that
our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office….
jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the
door. I was afraid any delay would make me
change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened
the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not
want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched
my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I
moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said,
I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring
probably because she and I didn’t value the
details of our lives, not because we didn’t love
each other anymore. Now I realize that since I
carried her into my home on our wedding day I
am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me
a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst
into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a
bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl
asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and
wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death
do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my
hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to
find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been
fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy
with Jane to even notice. She knew that she
would die soon and she wanted to save me from
the whatever negative reaction from our son, in
case we push through with the divorce.— At
least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving
husband….
The small details of your lives are what really
matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion,
the car, property, the money in the bank. These
create an environment conducive for happiness
but cannot give happiness in themselves.
So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do
those little things for each other that build
intimacy.