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3 Things To Do Immediately If He Seems To Be Losing Interest


Never chase, plead with, or beg a guy to come back to you. You are worth more than that.

When the man you love seems to be distancing himself , it’s understandable to get caught up in over-analyzing, worrying, and stressing about what’s going on in your relationship and what you should do.

This is the time to breathe through things instead of figuring out how to get his attention back. Here are 3 things you need to do:

1. Give him his space.

You might think by giving him his space , you may lose him. Trying to win his attention and affection back when he’s pulling away only puts more pressure on him and yourself. It also increases the possibility of putting more distance between the two of you and him possibly taking advantage of you, and here’s why.

During this time, you will feel confused, uncertain, and most likely a bit desperate. Trying to reel him back under these conditions won’t let you to shine. And if he is having doubts about you, the energy of desperation that comes from trying to keep his interest, confirms his doubts.

Instead, be still and pay attention to his actions while giving him his space . Don’t read into things, because you may misinterpret what’s really going on.

Without pressure, his true intentions will be revealed through what he does. It’s possible that he may have realized how much he loves you — he may be scared, feeling overwhelmed, and is coming to terms with this. It’s also possible he is thinking of leaving you , and if that happens, things weren’t meant to be.

2. Focus on yourself.

During this time, your self-esteem may take a hit . If this happens, work on building your self worth back up and getting to a place where you feel calm during this time of uncertainty. Take care of things you have neglected, explore new interests, and get to a place where you feel okay with uncertainty.

When you feel okay again (i.e. no feelings of desperation, no negative energy, etc.), reflect on your relationship with him .

Is he really the right guy for you or do you have doubts? If you could design your ideal relationship, is what you have with him truly ideal? Do you feel happy most of the time when you think of him or when you’re together?

Or do the times of unhappiness outweigh the moments of happiness ? Be honest with yourself as you may find that you may be better off without him .

3. Let him come back to you.

If you believe in your heart that he is the right guy, let him come back to you . Be your best self and respond accordingly.

When he experiences the woman he fell for, this eases the doubts he has and may renew his interest. If he makes the effort, there is more desire for him to work through the issues that originally caused him to distance himself.

If you’re meant to be together, he will make his way back to you and you won’t have to guess how he feels.

Whatever you do, don’t chase him . You should never have to chase, plead with or beg a guy to come back to you. You are worth much more than that . If he doesn’t realize your value on his own, he doesn’t deserve to be with you.

By Abdul
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7 Secrets To Win Over The Girl Of Your Dreams


Guys of the world – take note. It may be worth your while to entertain these “throwbacks” to some good, old-fashioned manners.

1. Call her.

In this day and age of texting overload, you will absolutely distinguish yourself as a suitor if you make the effort to dial her digits to show you’re serious. Real connections happen through real-time conversation, and even by leaving a voicemail checking in to say hi, she’ll likely start to dig you more if she was into you in the first place. You should still text her from time to time to show her she’s on your mind, but texting should not be your primary form of communication.

2. Grab the check.

Even with the female gender making advancements in the workplace, it is a nice chivalrous gesture for the first four or five dates to grab at the check to show you are making an investment getting to know her. Be warned that even if she says “I can split,” she secretly wants you to pay. Just like men test women (and want to see the obligatory wallet reach), women test men to see if they accept their offer. To play it safe (just in case she is more traditional and decisive on these matters), I would insist on paying up until a point of exclusivity. It’s fine if you don’t take her to lavish, expensive meals each time — but paying each time signals your interest and will prevent her from potentially writing you off immediately.

3. Make the first date in her neighborhood. (Then ask if you can walk her home.)

When setting the first date, make it convenient for her and in her hood. So long as she is not actively sick of her area, she’ll appreciate having it on her home turf. After the date, ask if you can walk her home. If she has not run away by now with some excuse on having to meet another friend or family member who is having an emergency, you can take that as a sign it went well. If she is fine with revealing where she lives to you and doesn’t think you’ll become a stalker, this is a nice touch to show you care about her protection and want to make sure she gets home safe.

4. Buy her a small token gift that shows you’re paying attention.

Did she mention she’s a huge fan of a particular band in passing? Get concert tickets for the next date. Is she always carrying a specific type of beverage, whether that is a brand of coffee or tea? Bring her a cup of it next time you see her. Has she expressed that she’s in search of a new iPhone case? Buy one for her in her favorite color, out of the blue with no particular occasion. If she already likes you, this will make her heart melt a little more and not come off creepy.

5. Make concrete follow-up plans.

Coming from someone who is more afraid of being hurt than being alone, I think it should be incumbent upon the guy to set the first few dates and make specific follow-up plans until you’re only seeing each other. While there may be slightly more proactive girls out there who are fine with taking the lead, it can often set up a pattern of complacency. I think most women appreciate when guys lead to remove the uncertainty of wanting to see each other again. If you think it comes off too eager to make follow-up plans while you’re on the date (guys — in line with other articles that have been written, let’s immediately get off this dating trend of seeing who can act more aloof), at least send a text the next day indicating you’d like to set another date and will be in touch. If you will be out of town or have another reason you can’t meet for a week, make sure she knows you still want to see her and propose an actual specific day to get together after you get back. (We all know the all-too-common fade-away begins with vague, non-specific “I’ll call you when I get back into town.”)

6. Linguistically match her.

This is a subtle form of mirroring, but studies have shown that people who speak and write similarly are likely to be happier together than those who don’t. Makes sense, considering you often want to be on the same “level” as the person you are dating, and same level can often mean sophistication of prose. By matching her in the way she communicates, you are showing that you literally are speaking her “language” and on the same page. This helps show that you “get her” and will only increase her affection for you.

7. Cook her dinner.

One that involves more effort than heating up some Chef Boyardee’s. First, it will signal that you are good with reversing gender norms and stepping up in the kitchen, and two, show that you can provide her actual sustenance. I know I speak on behalf of many women out there who say (similar to men) that our stomachs are the way to our hearts. Plus, there is nothing sexier than seeing a guy show his chops in the kitchen. (Bonus points if you use actual adult place settings and silverware instead of disposable plates.)

By Zaid

Guys, There’s One Simple Thing You NEED To Do To Keep Your Girl


What Is The Key To Being In A Successful Relationship? Start With Paying Attention

Men are changing, and many of them already understand the importance of paying attention. But a lot of us still don’t, so ladies, feel free to forward this or slip a copy under the sports section of his morning paper.

It could pay off. In a recent column I waxed on about the merits of guys paying attention as a secret to improving their relationship skills. You would think that something as simple as this wouldn’t come as a surprise.

But guys can get distracted easily, usually by themselves, and sometimes need a nudge to focus more on the ‘us’ than the ‘I’.

So, how did ‘paying attention’ enter my consciousness and change the way I was approaching my relationships ? Here’s what happened. After a few dates with a woman I was interested in, I inquired about what qualities I needed to be a good boyfriend .

This is something I had never done before, but I probably should have, because she immediately replied, “Just pay attention.” I narrowed my eyes like an ape does when he scratches his head with his oversized index finger.

“That’s it?” I asked. She smiled at me like I was a school boy and said, “Yes.” That was when the light went on, or in advertising terms, when I had my V-8 moment.

If you keep this precious nugget buried in your subconscious, I promise that you cannot go wrong. Women are interested in the effort almost as much as the outcome, so if you consistently demonstrate that you value her, you will invariably make good decisions and she will notice, big time.

Why? Because women always pay attention . They have one goal — to make your time together as fulfilling as possible. That’s it, amigo. She doesn’t receive any pleasure from pointing out your shortcomings, and she doesn’t want to change you.

Well, maybe a little. She just wants the best, and who can blame her? So, if she’s with you, she sees your possibilities. Is that so bad?

So, gentlemen, how do you pay attention? I think you know, but here are a few examples: ask her about her day and then listen, and whatever you do, don’t try and solve her problems. She doesn’t need you for that.

Try and point out something new about her on a regular basis. And fellas, not, “you look hot in that those shorts.”

Think more of how she does things in her own special way or how thoughtful she was for picking up your dry cleaning and that six-pack because she knows you dig that seasonal brew (hey, she sounds like a keeper).

Or better yet, do that for her. You know the drill. Just do your best to pay a little more attention to her each day, and I promise you that it will pay back higher dividends than most of those stocks you’ve invested in.

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By Selalie Ampofo

8 super annoying things women are tired of hearing from men


Sometimes you can’t fully apportion blame on men for their ignorance, lack of better communication or chauvinistic views which they may have picked up from their family that systematically demeans women.

Women can be intimidating at times and what was meant to be a compliment could be taken as offensive leaving the man unsure of what is or isn’t appropriate to say anymore. But don’t worry dear Johnnie, we have you covered.

Read on and find a list of things that women, especially the ones who would likely identify as feminists are sick and tired of hearing.

Smile

Honestly speaking you don’t expect her to walk around with a permanent grin on her face do you? Well some idiots do. Just because she doesn’t always flash a smile doesn’t mean she’s angry, moody or unapproachable. Maybe if you said something funny or nice she would smile. So do the math!

You’re the prettiest one among your friends

While many women will find it flattering and take it as a compliment, it can backfire on you depending on the woman you’re talking to. This is actually sexist. Don’t put other women down to make her feel good. Pitting a woman against her friends as though this were a beauty pageant is not a good way to go about this.

I didn’t know you were smart

In this day and age, men still get fascinated by women who are smart. This can be such a turn off especially coming from someone you are dating. It brings about all manner of questions like, if you didn’t think I was smart to begin with, then what are we doing here? Am I supposed to be flattered that you were only interested in me for my looks? Do you usually date women that you don’t think have any substance at all?

It’s rare to meet a……..

Scientist, mathematician, dot dot. If you work in a male dominated field this is nothing new. At first glance it may seem innocent and even flattering but what it implies is, there is no other reason for people to have listened to you other than your looks.

You are projecting

First rule of thumb never tell a woman how she is feeling because you do not know. Just because I said no doesn’t mean I’m uptight or have daddy issues. For peace sake, assume that I know how I’m feeling better than you and don’t patronize me by acting like you know better. And please just take what I say at face value instead of engaging in some mental gimmicks to try to get me to do what you want.

Ladies shouldn’t curse

Yes but men are allowed to right? Depending on each person’s background and upbringing some men may find it unattractive and incredibly crass for women to curse, drink or smoke. It is important for both sexes to respect each other and be polite. While it may make a woman look cheap or easy, it is not their onus to uphold the moral fabric of society unless otherwise. If you can’t handle her potty mouth move onto the next one.

How are you still single?

If you’re still buying into the idea that a woman is single because no man wants her you are a dumb idiot. There is nothing wrong with a beautiful, sexy, smart and successful woman choosing to take her time to live her life. If she’s picky it’s because she can afford to and she has choices.

I love women who eat

Depending on who you are talking to this can be very offensive. Men mistakenly think that phrase is progressive because it appears to mean that they’re advocating for women not to starve themselves. But the reality is that men never say this when a woman is overweight. It is only uttered to girls who fit the dreaded mold of the perfect dress size.

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By ZTF

3 Things To Do Immediately If He Seems To Be Losing Interest


Never chase, plead with, or beg a guy to come back to you. You are worth more than that.

When the man you love seems to be distancing himself , it’s understandable to get caught up in over-analyzing, worrying, and stressing about what’s going on in your relationship and what you should do.

This is the time to breathe through things instead of figuring out how to get his attention back. Here are 3 things you need to do:

1. Give him his space.

You might think by giving him his space , you may lose him. Trying to win his attention and affection back when he’s pulling away only puts more pressure on him and yourself. It also increases the possibility of putting more distance between the two of you and him possibly taking advantage of you, and here’s why.

During this time, you will feel confused, uncertain, and most likely a bit desperate. Trying to reel him back under these conditions won’t let you to shine. And if he is having doubts about you, the energy of desperation that comes from trying to keep his interest, confirms his doubts.

Instead, be still and pay attention to his actions while giving him his space . Don’t read into things, because you may misinterpret what’s really going on.

Without pressure, his true intentions will be revealed through what he does. It’s possible that he may have realized how much he loves you — he may be scared, feeling overwhelmed, and is coming to terms with this. It’s also possible he is thinking of leaving you , and if that happens, things weren’t meant to be.

2. Focus on yourself.

During this time, your self-esteem may take a hit . If this happens, work on building your self worth back up and getting to a place where you feel calm during this time of uncertainty. Take care of things you have neglected, explore new interests, and get to a place where you feel okay with uncertainty.

When you feel okay again (i.e. no feelings of desperation, no negative energy, etc.), reflect on your relationship with him .

Is he really the right guy for you or do you have doubts? If you could design your ideal relationship, is what you have with him truly ideal? Do you feel happy most of the time when you think of him or when you’re together?

Or do the times of unhappiness outweigh the moments of happiness ? Be honest with yourself as you may find that you may be better off without him .

3. Let him come back to you.

If you believe in your heart that he is the right guy, let him come back to you . Be your best self and respond accordingly.

When he experiences the woman he fell for, this eases the doubts he has and may renew his interest. If he makes the effort, there is more desire for him to work through the issues that originally caused him to distance himself.

If you’re meant to be together, he will make his way back to you and you won’t have to guess how he feels.

Whatever you do, don’t chase him . You should never have to chase, plead with or beg a guy to come back to you. You are worth much more than that . If he doesn’t realize your value on his own, he doesn’t deserve to be with you.

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By Abdul

Top 5 Reasons Why You’re Single — And Will REMAIN That Way if you like


You don’t have to be alone forever.

While there are people out there who find themselves jumping from relationship to relationship, there are others who haven’t been in a relationship for years. If you’re wondering why you’re single , you might want to take a look at the reasons below. Then, you can use them to stop doubting yourself and start searching for a stable relationship.

1. You’re too much of a perfectionist.

Sometimes, people are too perfectionist when they are looking for a mate. They reject anyone who has even a small flaw or who doesn’t perfectly match their list of what they are looking for in a future spouse.

This single person needs to realize that nobody is perfect , and we rarely find anyone who meets all of our requirements. They just need to try out different types of people with a more open mind. This person might also benefit from some self-analysis and reflection to learn what his or her imperfections are.

2. You have low self-esteem.

This kind of perpetually single person does not feel good about him/her self and therefore won’t open him/herself up to the kind of soulful sharing that is necessary for a spouse. This person needs therapy to learn how to feel good about him/herself and to figure out how to trust their own feelings.

Until this person even likes him or herself, there is no way that they are going to find someone to love them or to trust that they can fully love the other.

3. You’re afraid of what commitment will mean.

They enjoy dating and enjoy the almost endless variety of people they can meet. Deep down, they are probably afraid of giving up the next good person that they might meet. Even when they find someone who might make a fantastic mate, they may think, “But what about the next person I meet?”

This forever-single needs to learn that there probably is not one perfect true love for anyone; that each of us probably has multiple great spouses out there. We just need to find one of them and commit to receive the almost unending benefits that a good marriage can bring you.

4. You think changing yourself will help you fit in.

This method simply doesn’t have merit and is one of the top reasons why you’re single. There is no way that a person who is completely faking it to seem like they are just like their potential mate can keep up that charade. And, even if they manage to for long enough to become engaged or even married, it is highly unlikely that this will form the basis for a long, satisfying marriage. Instead, this fake persona will likely lead to a relatively rapid divorce.

5. You’re simply too uninteresting.

They don’t have hobbies. They don’t have interests. They don’t have things about which they feel passionate. Oddly enough, of the five different types discussed here, this is the easiest to fix. Get out! Enjoy life. Try different things . Find something you love doing. Odds are, while you are doing that thing you now love, you will find someone else also doing the same thing, and soon, maybe you can begin loving doing that thing together.

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By Babs

Spend 60 Seconds on the Activity That Will Show How Attentive to Detail You Are


When we have too much work, we often panic and try to do everything at the same time. In the end, nothing works and we are left confused. In these situations, the ability to switch from one task to another is not as important as the ability to concentrate. In this article, we will help you develop this skill.

We present you with this exercise which will help you learn to not get fixated on one thing and notice all the details possible.

Look at this picture of the castle. You need to find the 10 objects that don’t belong there. You have 1 minute. Go!

If you have a problem looking for the objects, here are a few hints:

A different name for a head;

Protects you from bad weather;

A night hunter;

Sports equipment;

It gives milk;

What a woodcutter uses;

2018 Chinese zodiac animal;

Has a mane;

A reptile with a long body. Can be poisonous;

Cowboys have it.

Answers ——

1. Skull; 2. Umbrella; 3. Owl; 4. Ball; 5. Goat; 6. Axe; 7. Dog; 8. Lion; 9. Snake; 10. Gun.

How fast did you notice all the objects? Which of them was the hardest to find? Tell us in the comment section below!.

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