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My love life story: (Title): Is too late to Love me now


I really want to ask this,

Is it bad to be in a (relationship)? Or is it bad to have one (lover) in life?.

If your answer is (NO) then why is my own love life different?.

Dose it mean that am not suppose to love? Or i don’t need love life in my life?

Maybe i should start double dating!?..

Because each young lady i date (cheat) on me, and once i feel cheated and complain they leave me because of no reason.

And now the young lady i so much loved back in the days who breaks up with me and left me (Beyond Repair) then i was helpless.

Now she came back this time and told me that she really want and need me badly. So should i sing this song for her?…

Title: Is Too Late To Love Me Now

Is too late, you say you want me and is too late, once my love for you was so great, is too late to love me now.

Is too bad, you say you need me and is too bad, i know the feelings it is so sad, is too late to love me now.

Don’t you know how hard i try to hold on just for you, loving you from memory day by day.

Then someone came and took my life, turn my dreams around, she taking all your loving through away.

Is too late, say you love me, and is too late, once my love for you is so great, is too late to love me now.

Don’t you know how hard i try to hold on just for you, loving you from memory day by day.

Then someone came and took my life turn my world around she taking all your loving through away.

Is too late, you say you need me and is too late, once my love for you is so great, is too late to love me now…

My Appeal To You All

_____________________________

Please i need your help this time because am helpless again..

Please if you love me say something and if you don’t love me please also say something Thanks:.

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5 Grown Up Ways To Deal With Your Emotionally Immature Boyfriend


Here’s the scenario : You vacuumed, paid your bills online, put in a load of laundry, made lunch and ran out the door to pick up his sister’s birthday cake, while your boyfriend sat on the couch looking at cars online. As you drove to the bakery, you listed all the times he’s let you down and been too self-absorbed to notice you need some help. You wonder why the man you love just can’t “man up.”

According to Gary Cross , you’re not alone. Man-boys are a historical phenomenon specific to modern 21st century culture. Many men prolong their youthful emphasis on self by staying in school longer and postponing marriage and parenthood. When they enter the labor market, they only have access to low-paying jobs and temporary work. This means that they delay financial and emotional independence, and they live in temporary situations and in temporary relationships much longer than men of earlier generations.

Since they’re everywhere, you need some tips to deal with man-boys — if you choose to keep them around at all.

1. Be Independent

When you do your own thing, you provide an excellent model for how he can get his own stuff done.

2. Don’t Be His Mom

If you’re a “rescuer,” this is probably a big challenge. Don’t get his sister’s birthday cake. Let him be accountable for whatever situation he creates. Accountability is an excellent teacher.

3. Stop Making Excuses

If you find yourself doing this, then you’re setting yourself up for being taken advantage of. You legitimize his behavior and override your own feelings that could alert you to long-term, problematic behavior. Listen to your intuition, not your mind.

4. Modify His Behavior In Small Steps

If you’re up for the challenge, you can try setting up the house so that he develops more helpful habits. For example, instead of asking him to put in a load of laundry and waiting for it to never happen, you can put the hamper at the top of the stairs and ask him simply to carry it down the stairs next time he is going that way. Put it right in front of the stairs so that he has to pick it up to get around it anyway. Keep your fingers crossed.

5. Be Real About Why You’re With This Guy

The bottom line is that a man-boy is a poor long-term partner. Eventually, even the most efficient ‘go-to’ girl will get tired of doing all the work. If you’re just there for the sex or the laughs, admit it to yourself and your friends. Don’t try to make your man-boy into a man-man by getting pregnant or marrying him. That won’t work.

Being with a man-boy is hard work. Getting angry won’t really change anything, because he doesn’t know how to meet your needs or how to respond to them, even when you tell him clearly what you need. If you decide to stay with your man-boy, do it because you choose this relationship now, just as it is. Stop waiting for him to grow up!

This post originally appeared at YourTango.

By Bligharrison

Here is How You Feels To Be Told You’re Only Missed Because You’re Very Good In Bed


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Breaking up sucks. It’s genuinely one of the world’s worst feelings because it is rejection at in one of its purest forms (well, most of the time). In every break up that I have had, I always find myself wanting something more, wanting one last statement that is somewhere along the lines of, “I love you, but this just can’t work” or “I’m gonna miss the hell out of you.”

Obviously, that never happens. It always sort of dissolves unromantically with either a slough of cursing insults or with a box of stuff, the slam of a car door and so many words still unspoken.

There are also times when it sort of turns into limbo.

We all have that one ex who is just so determined to stay friends after that they still offer to buy you coffee and see you everyday to try and keep some piece of that relationship-comfort-zone that we get into. He is the one that is particularly dangerous because he’s the one who tests your independence and makes you wonder if you’ll ever move on. Or if you even have to.

Well, after a nice long “friend date” with my most recent ex, I decided to do something a little bold. I decided to ask him if he was sad that the relationship was over. I needed some answers. He said no, that he was perfectly content with the decision that we [he] had made. Blow one . I then asked him if there was anything he’d miss about our long and comfortable relationship…

He proceeded to say, “Yeah, but it’s not important.”

Being the overly curious, romantic that I am, I BEGGED him to tell me what it was.

“You’re really good in bed.”

Blow Two.

Um, what?

I was shocked, stunned, and hurt.

I had given my heart and soul to this man, and all he would miss was my sexual prowess.

He wouldn’t miss the home-cooked pizzas we made together.

He wouldn’t miss date nights to our favorite downtown watering holes.

He wouldn’t miss holidays with my family.

He wouldn’t miss the way I kissed his forehead when he was doing his homework.

He wouldn’t miss the mini-adventures we’d take at the most irregular times.

He wouldn’t miss my academic advising help in which I spent hours helping him redo his academic plan after failing YET ANOTHER class.

He wouldn’t miss any of that.

Instead, he’d miss my body and the nights we spent in the dark. The time we spent not looking at each other because we were too entrenched in the act of pleasure.

He would miss having someone there for his needs as a man. A deed any woman could do.

That was when it hit me that he wouldn’t miss ME at all. He’d miss the convenience and the comfort of having a woman. He wasn’t even concerned about me, so this whole “let’s be friends” bullshit was more degradation than validation. It’s the shoebox under the bed you hide the things you only use every-so-often. You ask to stay friends so that you are still in that person’s good graces in case there is something that you need in the future.

And to that I say no. Hell no to your “friendship.”

That is absolutely no way to treat a woman, especially one that has graced you with her time and energy. I refuse to be put on a shelf for safe keeping only to be put there for her appeal.

No woman should ever feel so objectified by a man who once said they cherished her.

Lesson to the man whose only interest is sex and only acts in the interest of that interest. Women are far fiercer than the eye can see.

By Ikemsamuel

Why Is It That Many Women Out There Marry Low Quality Men?


I was at my parents house the other day and my mom was watching the TV show Four Weddings . In it, four brides-to-be attend each other’s weddings and judge it based on four categories: dress, venue, food and overall experience. Overall Experience: The woman who’s wedding is judged the highest receives a dream honeymoon for her and her new husband.

I’m not opposed to a reality show judging weddings, but this criteria is really bizarre. Anyone can do research of hire an event planner and be pretty flawless on these points, it just takes effort and money — I know, I used to be an event planner. So, in a sense, it’s kind of a contest about who already has the most money, and who is wise enough to listen to the advice of venue staff and industry experts. The actual bride would benefit by being a passive middle man between these people and the event, rather than competing herself.

In this sense, the show was missing what I think the real competition of getting married is about — the groom. Why isn’t there a groom category they judge each other on? That’s the most important part of getting married.

There are criteria that vary by woman’s preference — does he participate in the ceremony? Is he witty vs. goofy? Does he adhere to whatever standards of attraction the woman has?

But there are a vast and legitimate number of objective ways we could judge the groom–are his friends and family cool? Does he have a good job? How much does he care about his bride’s happiness? Does he know how to control his anger? Is he reasonable?

I had an acquaintance years ago who was 29 and extremely militant on his I’ll-never get-married-and-kids-are-dream-slayers philosophy. To him, his whole life was his and he really wanted to make it as a writer so getting married and/or having kids would be giving up the freedom he needed to do that. Then he met a girl and they started dating seriously. Right before he got engaged to her we went to lunch with another friend who asked him if kids were down the line since he’d changed his mind on the whole marriage thing.

He said no, obviously, he’d made up his own mind and although his soon-to-be fiancé wanted to change his mind, it would never happen. She also wanted to do premarital counseling, I guess, to make sure they were compatible but it was going to be uncomfortable and require too much work so he’d made the decision that they weren’t going to do that.

To me, this is a low quality, but common husband. He not only does not care about what you want, but he belittles you to the people in his life. This wasn’t just his secret acquaintance personality, he was a forthcoming person. She was just enamored by how funny and tall he was, I imagine, to care that at a very deep level he just does not give a shit about anyone else. This is a guy that you say no to, no matter how charming he is. Or, you allow yourself to get swept away and have a few good years followed by several miserable ones.

There’s no epidemic of people having shitty weddings (well, there is, but who cares?) But there is an epidemic of women marrying below them. This choice is what, if anything, people should judge you on — not your wedding venue.

By Rosemary

This Is The 6 Stages Of Dating In Your 20s


Let’s face it: our 20s are an incredibly strange time to be looking for love. We are smack-dab in the middle of trying to figure out who we are and at the same time we’re supposed to be getting to know somebody else and working out how they might fit into our lives. As a result, our love lives take a lot of strange turns. Though they don’t necessarily happen chronologically, here are several undeniable stages we all cycle through at one point or another.

1. The empowered/independent stage.

You’re young, you have a bustling life of your own, and you couldn’t care less about settling down. Sure, there are guys or girls you meet at bars who turn into the occasional romp but it’s not a big deal if you ever see them again. You have a thriving career, a busy social calendar, and enough sex appeal to stop anyone dead in their tracks. You avoid relationships because who has time for that drama? You’re loving your life and it’s loving you right on back.

2. The serious stage.

Okay, something happened. Maybe your best friend got engaged. Maybe your fuck-buddy grew persistent. Or maybe the honest-to-God love of your life just walked through the door and made you re-evaluate everything. But somehow you ended up here: In serious relationship land. And chances are you couldn’t be happier.

The first serious relationship you have in your 20s is invigorating because you get to play house. Nothing feels more grown-up than picking out living room furniture with a significant other or telling you’re parents “ We’re coming home for Thanksgiving” rather than “ I’m .” You encounter the terrifying realization that you’re actually old enough to get married and have babies and though you’re in no rush, you play around with the idea for a while. It feels like something that grown-up-you could do. Maybe even with this person who lives in your bedroom and has sex with you regularly. That wouldn’t be so bad. It’s a surprisingly comforting thought.

3. The heartbroken stage.

There’s no two ways around this: there is going to be one person who takes it out of us, hard, while we’re in our 20s.

The reason it’s so hard to get over the people we date as adults is because we aren’t just getting over the past, we’re getting over the future: the one we thought we’d share with someone else. It’s okay to let this stage take us totally out of the game for a while, even if it feels like wasted time. Re-writing the characters that we thought would feature in the rest of our lives is a time-consuming venture. And it’s one that begins with re-writing ourselves.

4. The exploration stage.

We thought we had it all in our first serious relationship and it turns out we were wrong. So once we get back up on our feet we are logically curious about what else we got wrong. Are we really monogamous? Are we really completely straight? Are we really relationship people at all or were we just trying to fit the mold of what society wanted? This stage is about exploring the options we haven’t considered yet because quite honestly we’re feeling confused. If things can fall apart for no reason , we think, perhaps they can fall together for no reason too . So we go out in active pursuit of nothing in particular. And we end up with a lot of weird stories.

5. The lazy stage.

Screw. Dating.

That will be the mantra of this entire phase. You’ve dated seriously, you’ve dated casually, you’ve played the field, you’ve slept around and now the only relationship you want is with your couch. And Netflix. It’s not so much that you’ve given up, as you’ve just grown exhausted with the entire ordeal. You don’t care to feign interest over happy hour drinks anymore. You don’t care to wake up in any bed except your own. You resolve that unless the Universe drops someone directly into your lap, you will just die alone and be fine with it. Maybe you’ll even get a cat.

6. The secure stage.

This is perhaps the place we all end up at eventually.

This is the stage that exists once cynicism has waned, enthusiasm has grown into a steady hum and we are ready to approach our dating lives with openness and honesty. We are okay being alone but we’re okay with meeting someone too. We have a general idea of what we want but it’s not a checklist where any one trait is a deal-breaker. Simply put, we’ve matured. Into people who are ready to approach dating as a genuine means of meeting somebody and putting work into figuring it out. Maybe it’s short term. Maybe it’s long term. Maybe it’s the relationship of our dreams. At this stage, all we want is to meet someone who we like and who likes us back. Which is perhaps what dating should have been about all along the way.

By Rukevwe Becky Adjus

Man Here Is The Serious 21 Types Of Girls You Should Date


There’s been this weird trend where suddenly the internet is telling men (and women) what kind of girls they should date. Date a girl who travels. Date a girl who dances. Date a girl who cooks. I could go on. Although I am rather partial to this last one (I seriously love to cook), I find it odd how we need to read random articles on the internet to determine what kind of people we should date. You don’t necessarily need a girl who travels or dances or reads. Well actually, I would hope she reads. But anyways, dating a girl is not always about what she does, but also what she doesn’t do:

Date a Girl Who Isn’t a Whore. This one sounds foolproof, but you’d be surprised how many guys fuck this up.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Answer Texts with Hashtags . Does she think Twitter is secretly reading your conversation? #ontothenextone

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Hang Out with People She Hates . I never understood girls on this one. Why hang out with someone you don’t like, then call the person your ‘friend’?

Date a Girl That Doesn’t Drink and Drive . Unless you think DWI means ‘doesn’t withhold intercourse’.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Constantly Ask If She Looks Fat . An occasional ‘do I look fat?’ moment is okay. Changing her outfit 18 times and asking ‘do I look fat?’ after each outfit isn’t.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Nag All Day. Asking where you are is one thing. But if you tell her you’re going to the store for milk and she insists you’re at a strip club, abort that mission. Now.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Order Take Out Every Night. You want a girl that can fend for herself. And sometimes that means making a decent meal.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Talk Shit. If she’s talking shit to you about someone else, chances are she’s talked shit about you to someone.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Wait Around. A girl who is constantly growing and progressing will keep things interesting to say the least. Realize that a life partner will keep you on your toes and will put pressure on you to be the best you can be.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Preach All Day About Feminism. It’s not that I’m not a feminist. I definitely think men and women should be able to compete together on an equal playing field. It’s just I have this feeling that girls who preach all day about women’s rights might have some insecurities that run on a more personal level. A secure woman knows her worth and doesn’t rely on an ideology to tell her what she can and can’t do.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Use Buzzfeed To Catch Up on Current Events. Because Buzzfeed is oh so accurate.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Flake. This applies to both bailing on events and whether or not she uses Head and Shoulders.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Hide Her Emotions . This one is tricky. You don’t want a walking waterfall for a girlfriend. But you also don’t want a girl who constantly purses her lip and acts all passive aggressive on you, chanting ‘it’s fine’ like it’s her national anthem. Cliché I know, but date a girl who means what she says and says what she means.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Cringe At the Idea of Guys’ Night . Does she not realize this gives her license to also have a girls’ night?

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Pick Her Nose In Front of You . Because that’s fucking gross.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Eat Pizza with a Fork and Knife. Now that is one uptight bitch.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Watch Reality TV all day. You’ll grow to resent her when it’s playoffs season.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Think ‘A Farewell to Arms’ Is a New Diet Book. Through the words of Drake, I always like my women book and street smart.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Disrespect Her Body. I’m not saying your girl needs to be rail thin or the next Crossfit champion. But ultimately, a girl who loves and respects herself is going to take care of herself. That means eating right, exercising, and carving out some time for her and only her.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Ask Why There’s Isn’t A ‘You are Here’ Icon on a Portable Map. If you don’t get this one, you guys deserve each other.

Date a Girl Who Doesn’t Hate You. You’d be surprised how many guys repeatedly go after girls that clearly don’t like them back or aren’t interested. I’m no scientist, but I hypothesize there’s a greater chance of finding love if you ask someone out who finds you attractive and interesting to begin with.

By Jp

Here Is The Only One Vow That Can DESTROY Your Relationship


The phrase that’s sabotaging your intimate relationship.

Sometimes, in a moment of feeling abandoned, unseen, or treated unfairly by our partners, we protect ourselves with a silent vow: “Never again.”

“Never again will I let myself be hurt like this.”

“Never again will I allow myself to be so vulnerable.”

” Never again will I depend on you. “

Such vows may be fully conscious or barely at the edge of awareness.

We may not use the exact words “Never again” but whatever form the vow takes, we draw a line in the sand. We make a pact with ourselves but we don’t tell our partners . We may not realize the power of our decision until months or years later.

To be clear, I am not talking about relationships in which you are the recipient of destructive behavior such as emotional, physical, or sexual abuse. In relationships like that, vowing “Never again” is a sign of health.

You need to make sure the abuse stops, either by the other person addressing their unhealthy patterns or by you leaving the relationship.

Rather, I am talking about relationships in which one or both partners cope with a disappointment or feeling of abandonment by mentally going away.

In my 25 years doing couples counseling, I have seen this many times. A couple enters therapy with one or both partners checked out. Fights go unresolved. Passion has left the relationship. They turn away from each other. They are no longer a team.

Of course, many things can cause partners to turn away from each other. But sometimes as we explore the relationship in counseling, one partner, at first hesitantly then perhaps tearfully, will bring up an event from years ago.

“Eight years ago my doctor thought I might have cancer ,” one person recalls. “I was so afraid for weeks as they did test after test. But you seemed preoccupied with work.”

Another remembers, “My parents died within three months of each other. I felt so alone. But you seemed too busy to comfort me.”

A couple has a second child and the husband seems distant, not sharing the joy or the work, unlike he did with the firstborn. His wife feels confused and abandoned.

A woman has a miscarriage but her partner doesn’t want to talk about it, telling her it’s better to move on. She feels alone in her grief.

One partner’s job is suddenly in jeopardy. He wants support and encouragement but his partner seems critical and worried about money. He feels that nobody has his back.

Such events can trigger deep attachment wounds. We feel alone, misunderstood, and afraid. We wonder: “Why aren’t you there for me? Can I depend on you? Do you really love me?”

We begin to view our partners differently. We trust less. We notice the times they aren’t there for us more than the times they are.

Sometimes we try to communicate our feelings to our partners. But maybe they don’t understand or can’t hear us, so we give up. Other times, not a word is said. We hedge our bets, becoming less invested in the relationship .

Often, in counseling when a partner communicates the pain from a long-ago hurt, we discover that the other partner had little or no idea about the extent of the wound.

The first step to turning around a “Never again” vow is to communicate with your partner. Explain what happened, what you felt, and what you decided.

This may be difficult. If you armored yourself after being hurt, opening up may lead you to feel vulnerable. But “Never again” vows can undermine the foundation of your relationship. The fallout from such attachment wounds generally doesn’t just go away or get better on its own.

If you are telling your partner about a wound that changed how you view the relationship , share as openly as you can. Your partner may initially seem surprised or even defensive, but let your partner know that you are speaking up to try to improve the relationship, not to make it worse.

Also, leave an opening for your partner to talk about what was going on in his or her life at the time.

If your partner is the one telling you about a past incident that hurt them, recognize how hard it may be for them to bring it up. If you notice yourself getting defensive, say that, and then try to remain open. Their speaking up can be seen as an effort to improve the relationship, not as an attack on you.

Honest communication can bring life back to your relationship. If needed, seek the help of a qualified therapist .

Communicating can reset your view of your partner, which may have become negatively biased over time. Exploring what happened can offer lessons on what each of you can do better next time. Healing can soften a “Never again” and open the door to “Let’s try.”

By Fugitive