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3 Things To Do Immediately If He Seems To Be Losing Interest


Never chase, plead with, or beg a guy to come back to you. You are worth more than that.

When the man you love seems to be distancing himself , it’s understandable to get caught up in over-analyzing, worrying, and stressing about what’s going on in your relationship and what you should do.

This is the time to breathe through things instead of figuring out how to get his attention back. Here are 3 things you need to do:

1. Give him his space.

You might think by giving him his space , you may lose him. Trying to win his attention and affection back when he’s pulling away only puts more pressure on him and yourself. It also increases the possibility of putting more distance between the two of you and him possibly taking advantage of you, and here’s why.

During this time, you will feel confused, uncertain, and most likely a bit desperate. Trying to reel him back under these conditions won’t let you to shine. And if he is having doubts about you, the energy of desperation that comes from trying to keep his interest, confirms his doubts.

Instead, be still and pay attention to his actions while giving him his space . Don’t read into things, because you may misinterpret what’s really going on.

Without pressure, his true intentions will be revealed through what he does. It’s possible that he may have realized how much he loves you — he may be scared, feeling overwhelmed, and is coming to terms with this. It’s also possible he is thinking of leaving you , and if that happens, things weren’t meant to be.

2. Focus on yourself.

During this time, your self-esteem may take a hit . If this happens, work on building your self worth back up and getting to a place where you feel calm during this time of uncertainty. Take care of things you have neglected, explore new interests, and get to a place where you feel okay with uncertainty.

When you feel okay again (i.e. no feelings of desperation, no negative energy, etc.), reflect on your relationship with him .

Is he really the right guy for you or do you have doubts? If you could design your ideal relationship, is what you have with him truly ideal? Do you feel happy most of the time when you think of him or when you’re together?

Or do the times of unhappiness outweigh the moments of happiness ? Be honest with yourself as you may find that you may be better off without him .

3. Let him come back to you.

If you believe in your heart that he is the right guy, let him come back to you . Be your best self and respond accordingly.

When he experiences the woman he fell for, this eases the doubts he has and may renew his interest. If he makes the effort, there is more desire for him to work through the issues that originally caused him to distance himself.

If you’re meant to be together, he will make his way back to you and you won’t have to guess how he feels.

Whatever you do, don’t chase him . You should never have to chase, plead with or beg a guy to come back to you. You are worth much more than that . If he doesn’t realize your value on his own, he doesn’t deserve to be with you.

By Abdul
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10 Ways Women Act When They Don’t Love You Anymore


Understanding women isn’t easy and the fact that they can hide their emotions pretty well just makes deciphering them harder. When women give up on a relationship, they will be hesitant to be vocal about it until the very end. What they will do is show subtle signs of dissatisfaction for you to pick up on. If you can’t see these red flags and don’t act quickly enough, fixing the relationship could be beyond hope. Here are 10 warning signs to look out for when she’s not in love with you anymore:

1.

Communication is the most vital key behind the survival of any relationship. Whether you’re relationship has its ups and downs or not, when communication fizzles out there is no hope of bringing the relationship back to life. A couple who communicate with each other about the things that are bothering them, relationship wise or other, are more likely to survive a rough patch as compared to partners who shut each other out.

2.

Women love to talk and usually take the responsibility of making small talk at home. They have a dozen things on their mind and cannot wait to share details of what happened at work or at home during the day over dinner with you.

If you feel that conversations have bubbled down to almost being non-existent and that you are the only one raking your mind for things to talk about, then there is definitely something more serious at play than just ‘I’m too tired to talk’. While it could mean that it is her way of telling you that she’s mad, but if she continues to be like that without telling you why or communicating about what’s bothering her then be very worried.

3.

Has she suddenly started acting as if everything about you is bothering her? Does she give you annoyed glances when you are doing things you normally do in routine? Does she seem constantly agitated in your presence and won’t tell you why? Women are very expressive about how they feel and if they are irritated with you, one way or another they will make sure they get that message across. This kind of behavior isn’t normal and is definitely not healthy.

4.

She could be the cranky type, as we discussed in #3, but she could also be the quiet type. If she just doesn’t bother with your antics anymore and doesn’t get mad at things she normally would get mad at, then these aren’t very healthy signs either.

Don’t assume that she has learnt to accept all the irritating things that you do. It could very well be that she doesn’t find the energy or motivation in herself to invest emotionally in you anymore.

5.

When two people fall in love, and get married, they give each other their hundred percent support as well. That means she’s always there for you, cheering you on and so are you. But if you feel that she has disconnected and only focuses on herself, her work and has made herself a priority then things are heading south. Of course you would want her to be independent and chase her dreams.

She’s an individual and a whole person outside of being married to you but women tend to disconnect with the people they no longer have feelings for. They will shift the focus to themselves and you will slowly fall off their radar entirely.

6.

One of the signs of intimacy that women show is that they aren’t conscious about opening up emotionally in front of you. They will share their greatest fears with you, what they want in the future and are not afraid to let the water works flow freely in front of you.

However, when she stops opening up in front of you and doesn’t let her emotions through any more, it could be a sign that things aren’t working out for her as they did before.

7.

You can tell a woman is head over heels in love with you because she will make you feel that way. She will think of little gestures of love and acts of intimacy to let you know how much you mean to her. Women are great at making their loved ones feel extra special. When she stops loving a man, the very desire to do something special for her SO dies. She just doesn’t bother herself anymore because she isn’t invested in the relationship like she used to be.

8.

Perhaps one of the fieriest red flags is in the bedroom. It is a warning sign if she is always too tired or not in the mood. She pulls away when you try to initiate something and always has a excuse ready. You will know the passion has died and when you two do get down to something, it feels forced and as if she is just going through the ropes of it all. Relationships are in a serious danger when sexual intimacy begins to dwindle.

9.

You may have had the worst week at work but that doesn’t faze her. She has a neutral, bored and what-do-I-care expression on her face as you tell her about your work troubles or share your thoughts on something troublesome.

Your problems are no longer her problems. Where she would previously have shown interest, would have had lengthy discussions and help you solve a problem, now she wishes you would just leave her alone and stop talking.

10.

Women crave attention and they give a lot of attention to their SO as well. If previously, she couldn’t wait to shower you with her undivided attention as soon as you walked in the door (and demanded yours too) but seems distant and disengaged as of recent then it is obviously a warning sign that shallow waters are running deeper than you can swim in here.

By Relationship

7 Secrets To Win Over The Girl Of Your Dreams


Guys of the world – take note. It may be worth your while to entertain these “throwbacks” to some good, old-fashioned manners.

1. Call her.

In this day and age of texting overload, you will absolutely distinguish yourself as a suitor if you make the effort to dial her digits to show you’re serious. Real connections happen through real-time conversation, and even by leaving a voicemail checking in to say hi, she’ll likely start to dig you more if she was into you in the first place. You should still text her from time to time to show her she’s on your mind, but texting should not be your primary form of communication.

2. Grab the check.

Even with the female gender making advancements in the workplace, it is a nice chivalrous gesture for the first four or five dates to grab at the check to show you are making an investment getting to know her. Be warned that even if she says “I can split,” she secretly wants you to pay. Just like men test women (and want to see the obligatory wallet reach), women test men to see if they accept their offer. To play it safe (just in case she is more traditional and decisive on these matters), I would insist on paying up until a point of exclusivity. It’s fine if you don’t take her to lavish, expensive meals each time — but paying each time signals your interest and will prevent her from potentially writing you off immediately.

3. Make the first date in her neighborhood. (Then ask if you can walk her home.)

When setting the first date, make it convenient for her and in her hood. So long as she is not actively sick of her area, she’ll appreciate having it on her home turf. After the date, ask if you can walk her home. If she has not run away by now with some excuse on having to meet another friend or family member who is having an emergency, you can take that as a sign it went well. If she is fine with revealing where she lives to you and doesn’t think you’ll become a stalker, this is a nice touch to show you care about her protection and want to make sure she gets home safe.

4. Buy her a small token gift that shows you’re paying attention.

Did she mention she’s a huge fan of a particular band in passing? Get concert tickets for the next date. Is she always carrying a specific type of beverage, whether that is a brand of coffee or tea? Bring her a cup of it next time you see her. Has she expressed that she’s in search of a new iPhone case? Buy one for her in her favorite color, out of the blue with no particular occasion. If she already likes you, this will make her heart melt a little more and not come off creepy.

5. Make concrete follow-up plans.

Coming from someone who is more afraid of being hurt than being alone, I think it should be incumbent upon the guy to set the first few dates and make specific follow-up plans until you’re only seeing each other. While there may be slightly more proactive girls out there who are fine with taking the lead, it can often set up a pattern of complacency. I think most women appreciate when guys lead to remove the uncertainty of wanting to see each other again. If you think it comes off too eager to make follow-up plans while you’re on the date (guys — in line with other articles that have been written, let’s immediately get off this dating trend of seeing who can act more aloof), at least send a text the next day indicating you’d like to set another date and will be in touch. If you will be out of town or have another reason you can’t meet for a week, make sure she knows you still want to see her and propose an actual specific day to get together after you get back. (We all know the all-too-common fade-away begins with vague, non-specific “I’ll call you when I get back into town.”)

6. Linguistically match her.

This is a subtle form of mirroring, but studies have shown that people who speak and write similarly are likely to be happier together than those who don’t. Makes sense, considering you often want to be on the same “level” as the person you are dating, and same level can often mean sophistication of prose. By matching her in the way she communicates, you are showing that you literally are speaking her “language” and on the same page. This helps show that you “get her” and will only increase her affection for you.

7. Cook her dinner.

One that involves more effort than heating up some Chef Boyardee’s. First, it will signal that you are good with reversing gender norms and stepping up in the kitchen, and two, show that you can provide her actual sustenance. I know I speak on behalf of many women out there who say (similar to men) that our stomachs are the way to our hearts. Plus, there is nothing sexier than seeing a guy show his chops in the kitchen. (Bonus points if you use actual adult place settings and silverware instead of disposable plates.)

By Zaid

18 Women Discuss The One Astrological Sign They Just Won’t Date


1. “I hate Geminis and I don’t like Leos, it’s weird to ‘love the spotlight’ in my opinion. Capricorns are too cold. Scorpio is a panty dropper and I always know I will get along with Pisces, Aries and Libras.” Melissa, 29.

2. “I will never date a Virgo. They are the moodiest, most difficult, most brooding signs of the zodiac. Chill out with all your darkness, man. Aquarians are MY LOVES. I am surrounded by Aquarians always.” – Kristen, 27.

3. “I wish I didn’t have to say this but Aquarius. They’re always in their own world, which would be fine, except for the fact they never let you in. They are so cold and emotionally detached that for a Pisces it’s extremely hard to deal with. I love how affectionate Taurus and Cancers can be.” – Larissa, 26 .

4. “My best relationship was with a Libra. We were best friends and had a very harmonious relationship for the most part. He was very romantic, loved helping me decorate our apartment. Even now, years after the break up, we still check in to see how each other is doing. I refuse to date Leos. They’re literally the worst.” – Becca, 31.

5. “Pisces men and women are always so warm and loving but you have to be careful because they can be incredibly manipulative as well. Astrology tries to make Pisces seem like the darling of the zodiac but they have a dark side too.” – Natalia, 25 .

6. “I’m completely over Leos. They are so argumentative. I thought it was just the one I went on a few dates with a couple years ago but nope, briefly dated a couple of other Leos and they had the same type of personality. Always felt like I had to defend myself over the most miniscule things. Either that or they were constantly trying to be negative and say the opposite of the point I was trying to make. Arguing isn’t fun, not sure why they always act that way. Libras and Pisces are the best hands down.” Berrie, 30 .

7. “Sagittarius is great in bed, very passionate, but they suck at relationships. I stay away from them now even though the chemistry is always so strong. My best relationship was with a Capricorn. – Lexi, 31.

8. “Pisces men! What is it with these guys? On one hand they can be so romantic. On the other hand they are really hard to pin down and keep their emotions under wraps. Which is weird because I thought I heard Pisces were overly emotional? I’ve had fun with Cancer and Virgo.” Melissa, 23.

9. “Tauruses. Ugh. They make the worst boyfriends. Cancers always feel very independent/outdoorsy/rough around the edges to me in a good way.” – Sophie, 25.

10. “The only people I’m ever told I should date are Scorpios and like, fine, I will sleep with a Scorpio because we know what to do but I refuse to date one. I know how jealous and possessive I get. I don’t need that x2.” – Heidi, 24.

11. “Cancer and Pisces is supposed to be the dream match of astrology but every Cancer guy I’ve met has been whiny and too needy for me. While I enjoy how sweet and romantic they can be I also need my own space to do my own thing.” – Emily, 28 .

12. “Sagittarians are weird but I think that may have more to do with getting your birthday usurped by Christmas. The thing I love about Aquarians if that there is a love of people… Aquarians are genuinely interested in human beings and always have this ragtag group of friends.” – Lauren, 24.

13. “Capricorns can be really cold at times, very vindictive.. Libras always have great taste. They know all the latest music, movies, and books and will take you to the best restaurants. The only thing about the one Libra I dated is he was very much into wanting to be a show off but not sure if that’s a Libra trait.” – Kelly, 29.

14. “Scorpios are very sexy but hard to date. Aries are too much work. I find I have the best chemistry with Taurus because of how down to earth they can be. They always have a large social network and they’re always out doing very active things.” – Christina, 25.

15. “As an Aries, we famously do not get along with Taurus, no matter if it’s a girl or a boy. I try not to take astrological things so seriously, but they’ve proven me wrong time and time again when I’ve tried to date a Taurus and it has fallen completely to shit. In my experience, Taurus men are impossibly defensive assholes. The Aries/Taurus match has almost always ended for me because he’s stubborn, hard-headed, and just a straight up dick.” – Kallie, 27.

16. “Aquarius is always on their phone. It’s so annoying. Geminis are very intriguing but they also like to play games so I don’t bother with them anymore.” – Michelle, 24.

17. “I have a really hard time connecting with Leos, Aquarius, and Virgos. Something about those three signs are difficult to get to know for different reasons. Leos always want to argue, Aquarius is emotionally detached, and Virgos are moody fuckers.” Emily, 32 .

18. “Say no to Virgos. Seriously. They will ruin your life. I think the reason I’m attracted to Pisces the most is because of how interesting they are. They seem like old souls to me. They can be quiet but once you get the chance to talk to them one on one they have so much to say. I’ve never dated one though, as they also seem kind of flaky.” – Magena, 27.

By Nostory

These Are the Single Men Women Encounter In Their Lives


Single-hood is an interesting journey that everyone needs to experience because of the different people one meets. Different individuals have diverse personalities and goals that helps one determine if they are indeed ‘the one’ for them. Women demand a lot when it comes settling down. Before they meet the right man, they interact with different types of single men as they seek the perfect partner. Through the interactions they get to know and understand whom they want to spend the rest of their lives with.

Here are the types of single men women encounter in their search for Mr Right:

Mr. Spiritual

This is the type of guy whose life is all about being religious. He wants both of you to pray together, read the bible, do devotion or go to church because he believes this is what will keep the relationship on track.

This is a great quality to find in a man but he tends to forget the relationship needs the fun activities like being flirty and natural even as he keeps the faith going for blessings. Despite the spiritual connection, keep the relationship active.

Mr. Intelligent

Mr. Intellect will stimulate your mind and make you have conversations about things you have never found interest in. He will engage you on politics, budgets, infrastructure and international events exposing you to new things from time to time.

This type of guy may friend zone you if you don’t break the ice and show him there is more fun. You need to make it clear that you want a long term relationship with you other than the serious conversations.

Mr. Adventure

He is the guy who loves doing adventurous activities and his kind of dates alternate between zip-lining, jogging, hiking, playing an outdoor game or trying out a new restaurant.

They are keepers and are rare to find but you have to keep your interests in play, suggest activities that you love to do or always wanted to lest they make you forget what you really are for.

Mr. Financial

This guy will spoil you. He will take you to the most expensive hotels, destinations and buy you expensive gifts. He is a good decision maker when it comes to business deals and will make you feel safe over your future because he knows how to make money. However, removing the money from the equation, in most cases, reveals a not so interesting man.

Mr. Pleaser

He will nurture a deep connection and chemistry between you two. Whenever you are together, goosebumps and fevers linger as the physical attraction between you two is always over the roof and can go to the next level in a second.

You acted fast towards him, he may have judged you and left you broken as you had believed there was ‘love’.

By ZTF

Guys, There’s One Simple Thing You NEED To Do To Keep Your Girl


What Is The Key To Being In A Successful Relationship? Start With Paying Attention

Men are changing, and many of them already understand the importance of paying attention. But a lot of us still don’t, so ladies, feel free to forward this or slip a copy under the sports section of his morning paper.

It could pay off. In a recent column I waxed on about the merits of guys paying attention as a secret to improving their relationship skills. You would think that something as simple as this wouldn’t come as a surprise.

But guys can get distracted easily, usually by themselves, and sometimes need a nudge to focus more on the ‘us’ than the ‘I’.

So, how did ‘paying attention’ enter my consciousness and change the way I was approaching my relationships ? Here’s what happened. After a few dates with a woman I was interested in, I inquired about what qualities I needed to be a good boyfriend .

This is something I had never done before, but I probably should have, because she immediately replied, “Just pay attention.” I narrowed my eyes like an ape does when he scratches his head with his oversized index finger.

“That’s it?” I asked. She smiled at me like I was a school boy and said, “Yes.” That was when the light went on, or in advertising terms, when I had my V-8 moment.

If you keep this precious nugget buried in your subconscious, I promise that you cannot go wrong. Women are interested in the effort almost as much as the outcome, so if you consistently demonstrate that you value her, you will invariably make good decisions and she will notice, big time.

Why? Because women always pay attention . They have one goal — to make your time together as fulfilling as possible. That’s it, amigo. She doesn’t receive any pleasure from pointing out your shortcomings, and she doesn’t want to change you.

Well, maybe a little. She just wants the best, and who can blame her? So, if she’s with you, she sees your possibilities. Is that so bad?

So, gentlemen, how do you pay attention? I think you know, but here are a few examples: ask her about her day and then listen, and whatever you do, don’t try and solve her problems. She doesn’t need you for that.

Try and point out something new about her on a regular basis. And fellas, not, “you look hot in that those shorts.”

Think more of how she does things in her own special way or how thoughtful she was for picking up your dry cleaning and that six-pack because she knows you dig that seasonal brew (hey, she sounds like a keeper).

Or better yet, do that for her. You know the drill. Just do your best to pay a little more attention to her each day, and I promise you that it will pay back higher dividends than most of those stocks you’ve invested in.

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By Selalie Ampofo

8 super annoying things women are tired of hearing from men


Sometimes you can’t fully apportion blame on men for their ignorance, lack of better communication or chauvinistic views which they may have picked up from their family that systematically demeans women.

Women can be intimidating at times and what was meant to be a compliment could be taken as offensive leaving the man unsure of what is or isn’t appropriate to say anymore. But don’t worry dear Johnnie, we have you covered.

Read on and find a list of things that women, especially the ones who would likely identify as feminists are sick and tired of hearing.

Smile

Honestly speaking you don’t expect her to walk around with a permanent grin on her face do you? Well some idiots do. Just because she doesn’t always flash a smile doesn’t mean she’s angry, moody or unapproachable. Maybe if you said something funny or nice she would smile. So do the math!

You’re the prettiest one among your friends

While many women will find it flattering and take it as a compliment, it can backfire on you depending on the woman you’re talking to. This is actually sexist. Don’t put other women down to make her feel good. Pitting a woman against her friends as though this were a beauty pageant is not a good way to go about this.

I didn’t know you were smart

In this day and age, men still get fascinated by women who are smart. This can be such a turn off especially coming from someone you are dating. It brings about all manner of questions like, if you didn’t think I was smart to begin with, then what are we doing here? Am I supposed to be flattered that you were only interested in me for my looks? Do you usually date women that you don’t think have any substance at all?

It’s rare to meet a……..

Scientist, mathematician, dot dot. If you work in a male dominated field this is nothing new. At first glance it may seem innocent and even flattering but what it implies is, there is no other reason for people to have listened to you other than your looks.

You are projecting

First rule of thumb never tell a woman how she is feeling because you do not know. Just because I said no doesn’t mean I’m uptight or have daddy issues. For peace sake, assume that I know how I’m feeling better than you and don’t patronize me by acting like you know better. And please just take what I say at face value instead of engaging in some mental gimmicks to try to get me to do what you want.

Ladies shouldn’t curse

Yes but men are allowed to right? Depending on each person’s background and upbringing some men may find it unattractive and incredibly crass for women to curse, drink or smoke. It is important for both sexes to respect each other and be polite. While it may make a woman look cheap or easy, it is not their onus to uphold the moral fabric of society unless otherwise. If you can’t handle her potty mouth move onto the next one.

How are you still single?

If you’re still buying into the idea that a woman is single because no man wants her you are a dumb idiot. There is nothing wrong with a beautiful, sexy, smart and successful woman choosing to take her time to live her life. If she’s picky it’s because she can afford to and she has choices.

I love women who eat

Depending on who you are talking to this can be very offensive. Men mistakenly think that phrase is progressive because it appears to mean that they’re advocating for women not to starve themselves. But the reality is that men never say this when a woman is overweight. It is only uttered to girls who fit the dreaded mold of the perfect dress size.

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By ZTF